Monday, February 28, 2005
Oh hey, I have an account and can post here. Sorry, I haven't posted in a while, but I just really don't have anything to say. With tough acts to follow, with Bish's blog-worthy posts, and Ms. Julie "I have more going on than you know" keeping silent, but brewing with drama, I don't really have anything worthwhile/non-routine going on right now.
I'm going to PCB, that'll be a fun and awesome challenge. If I can go, then there's almost nobody else that can't.
Well, Bish and Jules, keep up the good posts, and I'll pop in if I have anything to add. Everybody, have a great week.
~Jason
I'm going to PCB, that'll be a fun and awesome challenge. If I can go, then there's almost nobody else that can't.
Well, Bish and Jules, keep up the good posts, and I'll pop in if I have anything to add. Everybody, have a great week.
~Jason
Wednesday, February 23, 2005
Howdy world!
Well, I'm sick of my chemistry and about to go to bed anyway, so I figured I'd post. I've been posting less lately - not totally sure why but it probably has something to do with how busy I've been. I deserve to be busy now, I guess, considering last week I was sick and took 2 or 3 days off in a row. Oh well.
To the drama!
So, I'm pretty content with being single right now. I realize that I am not gonna be married most likely until at least a year after I graduate due to the fact I plan on going somewhere to do missions for at least a year out of college. Now that I know I'll be doing ministry wtih my life, this affects my drama in a number of ways.
1. Dating random girls is fine. However, if they aren't going to want to do ministry with their life, I don't think that I could possibly consider them as a long term mate. And knowing that, I think I'd have to get out of any dating relationship of that sort pretty quickly.
2. Going from point one, I guess that the only girls I can really consider anymore are girls that are going to be cool with joining me for a life of ministry. I know a lot of Christian girls would follow a guy into ministry, so I guess I'm not totally hosed there, although I definitely cut my chances with most soccer mom wannabe-type Christian girls, and I imagine that's a lot of them. That's ok though, every type of Christian out there has their part, not all are called to do full time ministry and that's great. It's just that I won't be ending up with them I guess.
3. Finding a girl that actually prefers doing ministry with their life is the optimal choice. There are a variety of women out there that want to do this, but as I think about my future wife I guess I realize more and more how much I'll end up appreciating this woman, because when I find her she'll be the perfect fit for me. I look forward to that a lot - I guess if I'm meant to find a wife someday, anyway.
Just some thoughts.
Homework is so boring now. I mean, at least when I thought I'd use it someday I had motivation to learn aside from grades. Now my motivation is to keep my grades high enough to graduate. Isn't that terrible? I'm actually having the best semester of my life (grade-wise) so far so I don't think that the lack of motivation is hurting me too much- it's just I find myself wishing I had more free time to hang out with people and read the Bible and the likes.
Coming to the realization that ministry is right for me has been awesome, by the way. I was kind of scared of ending up as a high school teacher. Who wants to do that for their entire life? (although I know I wouldn't want to do business or engineering - I think reserach of some sort would probably be my other choice). But realizing that I could feasibly do what I was most passionate about with my entire life, for a living, is great. The Bible says that God raises up certain people to do it, and that there are plenty of churches and funds willing to support me I'm sure (I'll have to find them, but I still have time for that). What an awesome and exciting adventure I have in store for me! I feel totally inadequate for doing mission work, but I guess that's the point. I'm not really adequate and that's OK, because I don't do the work anyway. I can't wait.
I guess you could say I've had my Eureka moment. I hope everyone has a good week and all, I've got a lot of work to do tomorrow and I'm going to hit the hay. Have a good weekend, I'll be at home so I won't see all of you.
Peace
Bish
PS: I know I don't like to talk about religion on the blog that much, and if you're getting sick of it well, sorry. But really that's been the thing affecting my drama lately, so eat it. It's my WPOD and I'll do what I want. Although, I'll say now that I don't think most of you out there, the ones that know me anyway, really mind too much about me talking about my faith (you're all probably used to it already). I just can't really talk about the drama without it anymore, at least when I'm talking about myself anyway. Oh well...
Well, I'm sick of my chemistry and about to go to bed anyway, so I figured I'd post. I've been posting less lately - not totally sure why but it probably has something to do with how busy I've been. I deserve to be busy now, I guess, considering last week I was sick and took 2 or 3 days off in a row. Oh well.
To the drama!
So, I'm pretty content with being single right now. I realize that I am not gonna be married most likely until at least a year after I graduate due to the fact I plan on going somewhere to do missions for at least a year out of college. Now that I know I'll be doing ministry wtih my life, this affects my drama in a number of ways.
1. Dating random girls is fine. However, if they aren't going to want to do ministry with their life, I don't think that I could possibly consider them as a long term mate. And knowing that, I think I'd have to get out of any dating relationship of that sort pretty quickly.
2. Going from point one, I guess that the only girls I can really consider anymore are girls that are going to be cool with joining me for a life of ministry. I know a lot of Christian girls would follow a guy into ministry, so I guess I'm not totally hosed there, although I definitely cut my chances with most soccer mom wannabe-type Christian girls, and I imagine that's a lot of them. That's ok though, every type of Christian out there has their part, not all are called to do full time ministry and that's great. It's just that I won't be ending up with them I guess.
3. Finding a girl that actually prefers doing ministry with their life is the optimal choice. There are a variety of women out there that want to do this, but as I think about my future wife I guess I realize more and more how much I'll end up appreciating this woman, because when I find her she'll be the perfect fit for me. I look forward to that a lot - I guess if I'm meant to find a wife someday, anyway.
Just some thoughts.
Homework is so boring now. I mean, at least when I thought I'd use it someday I had motivation to learn aside from grades. Now my motivation is to keep my grades high enough to graduate. Isn't that terrible? I'm actually having the best semester of my life (grade-wise) so far so I don't think that the lack of motivation is hurting me too much- it's just I find myself wishing I had more free time to hang out with people and read the Bible and the likes.
Coming to the realization that ministry is right for me has been awesome, by the way. I was kind of scared of ending up as a high school teacher. Who wants to do that for their entire life? (although I know I wouldn't want to do business or engineering - I think reserach of some sort would probably be my other choice). But realizing that I could feasibly do what I was most passionate about with my entire life, for a living, is great. The Bible says that God raises up certain people to do it, and that there are plenty of churches and funds willing to support me I'm sure (I'll have to find them, but I still have time for that). What an awesome and exciting adventure I have in store for me! I feel totally inadequate for doing mission work, but I guess that's the point. I'm not really adequate and that's OK, because I don't do the work anyway. I can't wait.
I guess you could say I've had my Eureka moment. I hope everyone has a good week and all, I've got a lot of work to do tomorrow and I'm going to hit the hay. Have a good weekend, I'll be at home so I won't see all of you.
Peace
Bish
PS: I know I don't like to talk about religion on the blog that much, and if you're getting sick of it well, sorry. But really that's been the thing affecting my drama lately, so eat it. It's my WPOD and I'll do what I want. Although, I'll say now that I don't think most of you out there, the ones that know me anyway, really mind too much about me talking about my faith (you're all probably used to it already). I just can't really talk about the drama without it anymore, at least when I'm talking about myself anyway. Oh well...
Monday, February 21, 2005
Hiya dears!
Bish, in response to your post: yeah, it's definitely complicated trying to figure out exactly what we are going to be doing for the rest of our lives. However, in your case, it kinda seems like you know what you want-you just need to think about how to go about doing it. I mean, regarding a ministry, i know you will have one wherever you go. And hey, you will have a teaching degree when you graduate, so you have sooo soo many options (which I know you already know.) But for real, you can definitely do both at the same time, or always have the other to go back to if you find out that the other is the place you need to be at that point in your life (if that made any sense!) And again, I know that you already know that, but I was just restating. And with your family: they love you, and they will respect and support whichever decision you make. All they really want is to see you happy, despite how things come across at times. I see that as their job. I mean, they push us to succeed, because they truly want what is best for us. But in the end, they will realize what will make us happy, and will go along with us for the ride! Follow your heart dear!
As for life in general: Hmm....welp life had been going extremely well for a while. Classes are kinda tough, and there are definitely LONG days during the week, but overall, there hasn't been crazy crazy drama, and I had just been happy happy everyday. However, again this week, death decided to hit my family. Again. My uncle passed away this week, and again, I got to go home for the dreaded and awkward hours of the services. Seriously, my home is starting to become associated with death in my eyes, and I hate that. This man was seriously one of THE coolest people ever, and so so many people are going to miss him more than words could ever express. Sometimes I really don't understand life. I just don't. Unexplanable things just baffle me (yeah, i know duh julie, they are suppose to do that), but I just am at a loss of words. And at times like this, I have no clue what to say to people. And i know no one really ever does, but I just really wish I had the right words that could help soothe a person's heart. Helplessness- I hate it!
grrrrr!
Anywho, definitely has been a LOONG day, so I'm off to bed. Night night my dears! ~Julie
Bish, in response to your post: yeah, it's definitely complicated trying to figure out exactly what we are going to be doing for the rest of our lives. However, in your case, it kinda seems like you know what you want-you just need to think about how to go about doing it. I mean, regarding a ministry, i know you will have one wherever you go. And hey, you will have a teaching degree when you graduate, so you have sooo soo many options (which I know you already know.) But for real, you can definitely do both at the same time, or always have the other to go back to if you find out that the other is the place you need to be at that point in your life (if that made any sense!) And again, I know that you already know that, but I was just restating. And with your family: they love you, and they will respect and support whichever decision you make. All they really want is to see you happy, despite how things come across at times. I see that as their job. I mean, they push us to succeed, because they truly want what is best for us. But in the end, they will realize what will make us happy, and will go along with us for the ride! Follow your heart dear!
As for life in general: Hmm....welp life had been going extremely well for a while. Classes are kinda tough, and there are definitely LONG days during the week, but overall, there hasn't been crazy crazy drama, and I had just been happy happy everyday. However, again this week, death decided to hit my family. Again. My uncle passed away this week, and again, I got to go home for the dreaded and awkward hours of the services. Seriously, my home is starting to become associated with death in my eyes, and I hate that. This man was seriously one of THE coolest people ever, and so so many people are going to miss him more than words could ever express. Sometimes I really don't understand life. I just don't. Unexplanable things just baffle me (yeah, i know duh julie, they are suppose to do that), but I just am at a loss of words. And at times like this, I have no clue what to say to people. And i know no one really ever does, but I just really wish I had the right words that could help soothe a person's heart. Helplessness- I hate it!
grrrrr!
Anywho, definitely has been a LOONG day, so I'm off to bed. Night night my dears! ~Julie
Friday, February 18, 2005
The following is definitely drama, but not relationship drama. So I hope this is a good change.
So lately, I've been thinking about what I want to spend my life doing. I've always known that I wanted to do something that involved people, and that I didn't care about money that much. So I figured I'd be a doctor or a teacher. I'm a pretty smart guy and I love science, so I went the doctor route. And then, I realized school is boring and I don't wanna spend my life in it (still, 8 more years before I'd be a doctor)... SO I DECIDE TO BE A TEACHER! GENIUS!
If you don't get the irony, I apologize.
So now, I'm thinking about what in life I'm really passionate about. I still love helping people and being around people; teaching is still a viable option. But I feel more and more like I'd like doing ministry a lot more. So where's the drama, you ask? Go and become a monk someplace and spend your life reading the Bible, right?
Well, I will spend my life reading the Bible, and I won't be a monk. The thing is my family expects a lot out of me. They know I'm smart and that I could easily be a successful person, making buku dollars and living the good life they never had, or the good life they have and want me to have too. I could take care of them when they're old and make everybody proud. That's what they want from me - my dad says he doesn't care what I do, just that I should get my PhD.
So I won't be getting my PhD. I'm not even sure if I'll do anything with chemistry. I could, and I definitely have that to fall back on if doing ministry doesn't work out. But here's what gets me:
Talk to anybody, and what they'll tell you is that you need to do something you love. I've found what I love more than anything else, and it's a totally viable option to do it for a living. What am I even thinking about? The only thing holding me back is that I'd be afraid of what people think, and about disappointing my family. But I know that they want the best for me - but do they want to control me? I appreciate their concern with my life, but I hope they'll support me regardless of what I do. I love them all dearly, regardless of whether or not I only see them once or twice a year. I hope they realize that if, Lord willing, I end up in ministry they'll support my dream of using my life to serve God with all of who I am, all the time, and not just in the evenings and on Sundays. To go and lead a Bible study in Lithuania with a small group of believers, under persecution and government oppression, would be some of the most exciting, adventurous, fulfilling and awesome work I could possibly think of doing. I don't know if that's what's in store for me, but the thought of doing my 9-5 in a factory somewhere, pushing papers for some high up guy that's trying to make record profit isn't what I desire to do with my life. I'm not even sure if I want to spend my life reusing old lesson plans and teaching kids chemistry - and that could seriously be really rewarding. Some people are made for these things, and that's GREAT! The world takes all different kinds of people to go around. It takes crazy radical missionaries to make the world go around too - I think maybe that's my niche. Now I think that I've finally found the strength to stand up for what I really want to do.
And it feels great.
So, family members, if you end up reading this, I hope you're not disappointed. If you are, I know it's just because you want the best for me. And yes, I will be finishing my degree and everything else. I just want you to know that, in your life, you probably got a lot of enjoyment from following your dreams. I hope you want me to follow mine.
Young, naive, idealistic, radical.
Bish
So lately, I've been thinking about what I want to spend my life doing. I've always known that I wanted to do something that involved people, and that I didn't care about money that much. So I figured I'd be a doctor or a teacher. I'm a pretty smart guy and I love science, so I went the doctor route. And then, I realized school is boring and I don't wanna spend my life in it (still, 8 more years before I'd be a doctor)... SO I DECIDE TO BE A TEACHER! GENIUS!
If you don't get the irony, I apologize.
So now, I'm thinking about what in life I'm really passionate about. I still love helping people and being around people; teaching is still a viable option. But I feel more and more like I'd like doing ministry a lot more. So where's the drama, you ask? Go and become a monk someplace and spend your life reading the Bible, right?
Well, I will spend my life reading the Bible, and I won't be a monk. The thing is my family expects a lot out of me. They know I'm smart and that I could easily be a successful person, making buku dollars and living the good life they never had, or the good life they have and want me to have too. I could take care of them when they're old and make everybody proud. That's what they want from me - my dad says he doesn't care what I do, just that I should get my PhD.
So I won't be getting my PhD. I'm not even sure if I'll do anything with chemistry. I could, and I definitely have that to fall back on if doing ministry doesn't work out. But here's what gets me:
Talk to anybody, and what they'll tell you is that you need to do something you love. I've found what I love more than anything else, and it's a totally viable option to do it for a living. What am I even thinking about? The only thing holding me back is that I'd be afraid of what people think, and about disappointing my family. But I know that they want the best for me - but do they want to control me? I appreciate their concern with my life, but I hope they'll support me regardless of what I do. I love them all dearly, regardless of whether or not I only see them once or twice a year. I hope they realize that if, Lord willing, I end up in ministry they'll support my dream of using my life to serve God with all of who I am, all the time, and not just in the evenings and on Sundays. To go and lead a Bible study in Lithuania with a small group of believers, under persecution and government oppression, would be some of the most exciting, adventurous, fulfilling and awesome work I could possibly think of doing. I don't know if that's what's in store for me, but the thought of doing my 9-5 in a factory somewhere, pushing papers for some high up guy that's trying to make record profit isn't what I desire to do with my life. I'm not even sure if I want to spend my life reusing old lesson plans and teaching kids chemistry - and that could seriously be really rewarding. Some people are made for these things, and that's GREAT! The world takes all different kinds of people to go around. It takes crazy radical missionaries to make the world go around too - I think maybe that's my niche. Now I think that I've finally found the strength to stand up for what I really want to do.
And it feels great.
So, family members, if you end up reading this, I hope you're not disappointed. If you are, I know it's just because you want the best for me. And yes, I will be finishing my degree and everything else. I just want you to know that, in your life, you probably got a lot of enjoyment from following your dreams. I hope you want me to follow mine.
Young, naive, idealistic, radical.
Bish
Tuesday, February 15, 2005
Howdy everybody!
I took Nyquil about half an hour ago, so I'm feelin' real good and stupid (kinda like if I post at 3am). I found out some sweet info about my sister today, cuz she's the best and I figured I'd post about it.
The dealio is this: she finally got out of a relationship with her ex, Greg, and is going out with a new guy.
Now I'm not going to judge Greg as a person, cuz I don't know him well, but I know that as far as being a boyfriend he did a horrible job. He would come over and basicly just mope around, pouting all the time. Sarah (my sister) told me at the end of summer of 2003 that she needed to get out of the relationship with him. And she tried, multiple times, and he kept on guilting her into going back out with her. Saying things like, "I need you, I love you," etc.
This is crap. If you are a guy, and a girl breaks up with you, NEVER try to manipulate them back into the relationship. If you do, I will get together every sane guy I know and come and talk some sense into you PAR style (makes motion towards the hoard of blunt swords and axes). Seriously though, that's underhanded. Girls' emotions are fragile enough, especially in high school. Guys gotta be sensitive to that kinda thing. Girls can be manipulated easily enough - most of them are nice at heart and easy to predict when given a person (guy or girl) who needs to be taken care of. It's in most girls' natures to help people out. When this gets exploited, especially in my sister's case, I get mad.
But fortunately she's going out with a new guy now that isn't doing that to her - yet. And if he does, I'll do my job as an older bro for a change and have a word with him, if Sarah will let me. I don't expect that, and I think Sarah learned enough about being manipulated to not let it happen again. I think I can give her that much credit, she's pretty awesome.
Moral of the story: manipulating girls' hearts is bunk. Stop whining and get on with life. Be a man. This isn't to Greg specifically, although I bet it applies from what I know, maybe he's learned by now, I can't tell for sure. But for any guy that's in a relationship where he twists the girl's arm to get her to like him more, stop doing it. You deserve a girl that likes you regardless. If you're a girl in that situation, stand up for yourself and get the heck out.
My two cents (as if I ever fail to give them),
Bish
I took Nyquil about half an hour ago, so I'm feelin' real good and stupid (kinda like if I post at 3am). I found out some sweet info about my sister today, cuz she's the best and I figured I'd post about it.
The dealio is this: she finally got out of a relationship with her ex, Greg, and is going out with a new guy.
Now I'm not going to judge Greg as a person, cuz I don't know him well, but I know that as far as being a boyfriend he did a horrible job. He would come over and basicly just mope around, pouting all the time. Sarah (my sister) told me at the end of summer of 2003 that she needed to get out of the relationship with him. And she tried, multiple times, and he kept on guilting her into going back out with her. Saying things like, "I need you, I love you," etc.
This is crap. If you are a guy, and a girl breaks up with you, NEVER try to manipulate them back into the relationship. If you do, I will get together every sane guy I know and come and talk some sense into you PAR style (makes motion towards the hoard of blunt swords and axes). Seriously though, that's underhanded. Girls' emotions are fragile enough, especially in high school. Guys gotta be sensitive to that kinda thing. Girls can be manipulated easily enough - most of them are nice at heart and easy to predict when given a person (guy or girl) who needs to be taken care of. It's in most girls' natures to help people out. When this gets exploited, especially in my sister's case, I get mad.
But fortunately she's going out with a new guy now that isn't doing that to her - yet. And if he does, I'll do my job as an older bro for a change and have a word with him, if Sarah will let me. I don't expect that, and I think Sarah learned enough about being manipulated to not let it happen again. I think I can give her that much credit, she's pretty awesome.
Moral of the story: manipulating girls' hearts is bunk. Stop whining and get on with life. Be a man. This isn't to Greg specifically, although I bet it applies from what I know, maybe he's learned by now, I can't tell for sure. But for any guy that's in a relationship where he twists the girl's arm to get her to like him more, stop doing it. You deserve a girl that likes you regardless. If you're a girl in that situation, stand up for yourself and get the heck out.
My two cents (as if I ever fail to give them),
Bish
Sunday, February 13, 2005
Howdy!
Ok, well V Day is tomorrow and I'm supposed to put up a post about being a wuss if I don't ask a girl out tomorrow, but I'm not feeling it. So we'll see what happens there = )
Jules, sorry you're going through an emotional rollercoaster, but really I don't have any idea what you're talking about because you're so vague. I'm sure it'll all end up alright though.
So, this weekend put a lot of stuff in perspective for me, and I really like that. It was the first time I've felt majorly challenged in my faith for a few months, and although I don't like to write about my faith on the blog so much I just gotta say that my weekend was really sweet. Ask me more if you want.
Valentine's Day is normally a day of me asking a girl on a date or going on a date with a girl. This year, although there's definitely girl(s) that I would ask, I'm not sure if I will. I'm just sick of people giving me so much crap about girls - and don't get me wrong, I know I bring it on myself. I asked out too many girls last semester and I have a blog about drama!! So I guess I'm a glutton for punishment and rightfully so. However, if I ask a girl out now and it works, then great. And if I ask a girl out now and it doesn't work, I'm sure I'll get even more crap from everyone. I don't feel like taking that.
The blame is not on anyone else, cuz I give guys crap all the time too. I just don't feel like dealing with it and I'd rather stay away from the topic of girls until, say... semi formal?
Mwahahahaahahaha.
I took nyquil a bit ago and I'm starting to lose my head. Peace everybody!
Bish
Ok, well V Day is tomorrow and I'm supposed to put up a post about being a wuss if I don't ask a girl out tomorrow, but I'm not feeling it. So we'll see what happens there = )
Jules, sorry you're going through an emotional rollercoaster, but really I don't have any idea what you're talking about because you're so vague. I'm sure it'll all end up alright though.
So, this weekend put a lot of stuff in perspective for me, and I really like that. It was the first time I've felt majorly challenged in my faith for a few months, and although I don't like to write about my faith on the blog so much I just gotta say that my weekend was really sweet. Ask me more if you want.
Valentine's Day is normally a day of me asking a girl on a date or going on a date with a girl. This year, although there's definitely girl(s) that I would ask, I'm not sure if I will. I'm just sick of people giving me so much crap about girls - and don't get me wrong, I know I bring it on myself. I asked out too many girls last semester and I have a blog about drama!! So I guess I'm a glutton for punishment and rightfully so. However, if I ask a girl out now and it works, then great. And if I ask a girl out now and it doesn't work, I'm sure I'll get even more crap from everyone. I don't feel like taking that.
The blame is not on anyone else, cuz I give guys crap all the time too. I just don't feel like dealing with it and I'd rather stay away from the topic of girls until, say... semi formal?
Mwahahahaahahaha.
I took nyquil a bit ago and I'm starting to lose my head. Peace everybody!
Bish
Wednesday, February 09, 2005
Hiya dears!!
First of all, yay for colors!!! hehe!! anywho, ok now that that is out of my system.....here is my rant. For some reason, everything is very...hmm twilight zone at the moment, and I'm completely confused. I mean, seriously, the last like week or so has been so completely random. I swear every emotion has been covered thoroughly throughout this time, and I've been left either extremely happy, bewildered, scared, confused, and sad for periods of time. Soooooo weird. I realize I am being very vague, so hmmmmm. Basically, pure crazyness on Friday, cuteness w/ my grandparents on Saturday, (which btw was 50 degrees out-my point proven: 50 degrees at the beginning of February!!), followed by frustration with my screwed up legs, pure joy with an amazing reunion with some incredible people :), having awesome convos and spending quality time with some of the most amazing friends in the entire world, watching the Patriots kick butt in the Superbowl (hey bish: "blah blah blah....(b/c i don't remember what u said) yeah i don't know what I'm saying." hehehe!), and just learning lots of lessons. Ok, I think I'm done right now because I am not making any sense, but wow...that's all i have to say...
Anywho, in response to your post Bish: this is your call and your call only. You do what u need/want to do, when and where you want to. And I definitely think people will respect your decision now! Sweet dreams my dears!!!! ~Julie
First of all, yay for colors!!! hehe!! anywho, ok now that that is out of my system.....here is my rant. For some reason, everything is very...hmm twilight zone at the moment, and I'm completely confused. I mean, seriously, the last like week or so has been so completely random. I swear every emotion has been covered thoroughly throughout this time, and I've been left either extremely happy, bewildered, scared, confused, and sad for periods of time. Soooooo weird. I realize I am being very vague, so hmmmmm. Basically, pure crazyness on Friday, cuteness w/ my grandparents on Saturday, (which btw was 50 degrees out-my point proven: 50 degrees at the beginning of February!!), followed by frustration with my screwed up legs, pure joy with an amazing reunion with some incredible people :), having awesome convos and spending quality time with some of the most amazing friends in the entire world, watching the Patriots kick butt in the Superbowl (hey bish: "blah blah blah....(b/c i don't remember what u said) yeah i don't know what I'm saying." hehehe!), and just learning lots of lessons. Ok, I think I'm done right now because I am not making any sense, but wow...that's all i have to say...
Anywho, in response to your post Bish: this is your call and your call only. You do what u need/want to do, when and where you want to. And I definitely think people will respect your decision now! Sweet dreams my dears!!!! ~Julie
Tuesday, February 08, 2005
Alright.
In my Junior year of high school, I liked a girl named Trisha. I talked about her a lot for about 5 months, and on February 10th, my friends developed what is now known as the 5 day plan.
The 5 day plan is simple: you ask the girl out in 5 days or your friends do it for you. Either way, you're done thinking about the girl. If you ask her, you have a chance of her giving you a chance, and if your friends do it, it's over.
Well, due to my amazing luck with women, I asked her and she said no. I was bummed. But hey, it's all good in retrospect. What sucks is to have your friends give you a timeline on which you must operate. That's bogus.
So, guys, don't make me relive that crap - I'll do it, if I do it, on my own time when I know it's good, if that ever happens. If you wanna go and make an ass out of me then you can do it but don't think it's justified, and don't think I won't be pissed. I think I'd have pretty good reason to be pissed, and don't think I'm taking it too far. If you guys were joking, that's cool, but when you insist even past the point of joking like "Hey I'm actually going to do it cuz I have that day off so I'll hunt her down on campus so you gotta go do it you wussy girly man." Ok, I know you didn't say that, but please, don't make me redo it.
Cuz the date you set is coming up quick, and I'm still a wuss.
Ha.
Bish
In my Junior year of high school, I liked a girl named Trisha. I talked about her a lot for about 5 months, and on February 10th, my friends developed what is now known as the 5 day plan.
The 5 day plan is simple: you ask the girl out in 5 days or your friends do it for you. Either way, you're done thinking about the girl. If you ask her, you have a chance of her giving you a chance, and if your friends do it, it's over.
Well, due to my amazing luck with women, I asked her and she said no. I was bummed. But hey, it's all good in retrospect. What sucks is to have your friends give you a timeline on which you must operate. That's bogus.
So, guys, don't make me relive that crap - I'll do it, if I do it, on my own time when I know it's good, if that ever happens. If you wanna go and make an ass out of me then you can do it but don't think it's justified, and don't think I won't be pissed. I think I'd have pretty good reason to be pissed, and don't think I'm taking it too far. If you guys were joking, that's cool, but when you insist even past the point of joking like "Hey I'm actually going to do it cuz I have that day off so I'll hunt her down on campus so you gotta go do it you wussy girly man." Ok, I know you didn't say that, but please, don't make me redo it.
Cuz the date you set is coming up quick, and I'm still a wuss.
Ha.
Bish
Saturday, February 05, 2005
Dating, a New Perspective
by Brian Lauren Bish (thanks D) =)
In the past, I have made several posts about dating. Several is, in fact, an understatement. Here are some of my conclusions from my previous dating posts:
1. Dating shouldn't be a big deal.
2. Asking girls on dates to get to know them better is fine.
3. Hopefully guys and girls don't take a first date too seriously.
This is all well and good, I think. However, when I think about romances that have worked out well, I think maybe there's something a bit more than this mechanical formula for dating (ask girl out, hang out, see what happens, hang out more, etc). Maybe we need a fresh look.
I'm going to take a certain situation and analyze it. His first date with the girl was to a semi-formal. Then, he asked her to dinner. After the dinner, they went to a park and played on the swings (this guy is the man, by the way). While he was doing this, he had his friend drop off a huge pack of flowers (roses?) on her bed while she was out, so that when she came back she'd have them. Maybe it shouldn't be a big surprise that currently, they are still dating and she's hugely in love with him. Which, of course, she should be, because he's the man (see above).
Now, here's my dilemma: if this isn't supposed to be a big deal, which I don't think it should be too big of a deal, but girls kinda want it to mean something, should we just do something amazing to win their hearts over? I mean, what if we like a girl and we know sufficient enough about her to know that she's worth pursuing, even for a long term relationship - as much as you could know, anyway. For example, say everything you know about this girl makes you like her and there's nothing about her you don't like or you know you wouldn't like in the future. If we ask her out on a date, take her to Biaggi's, do something else amazing, flatter her and smother her in all kinds of awesome romantic things (which is what a lot of girls want, I think...), then I am wondering what's wrong with that. If I did that for a second date, it'd be a little bit more than just me getting to like a girl or know her better. That's probably way too much for a first date... but even early in the relationship, why not? I bet a girl would really appreciate something like that. And if they don't like you, sure it sucks and sure you put yourself on the line a little bit more than normal; oh well, life goes on.
I guess it's the romantic side in me coming out. Who knows, I think I just contradicted what I in previous posts. How do I casually date a girl, with the hope of getting to know her to the point where I don't feel like I don't know enough about her to ask her to be my girlfriend, without doing something that assumes I already know that she could be my girlfriend, like a super-romantic date? That question, my friends, is what I hope Jules and Jason answer - and you guys all know my email too.
I still don't think a first date should be a big deal, btw. If I said let's go on a first date and the girl said no I'd still feel like I didn't get a fair chance. But if I did something super awesome on date 2, am I contradicting myself?
We'll see what everybody else thinks. I'm just processing stuff.
And I'm about to go to sleep, because to quote Padiak, "You can't think when you're asleep."
It's so true.
Night!
Bish
PS: So check this out - I tell my friends I posted it and they give me some classic and highly quotable AIM convo stuff. So here it is, I hope you enjoy this!
LisAg 84: see and that's the perspective on dating that most girls take
Bishman77: but doing that on date 1 would be nuts right?!
LisAg 84: um.....i dunno
LisAg 84: i guess it just depends
Bishman77: on?
LisAg 84: whether or not the girl likes the guy
Now that is hysterical!
Next!
Bishman77: see, in my post I did say that date 1 would be too much for something like that
Bottman77: yah, it probably would
Bottman77: if you are trying to get to know the person better
Bottman77: otherwise, if you've known them for a while, something bigger might be appropriate
Bottman77: see
Bottman77: it's all about tricking the other person into liking you
Bottman77: that way they're stuck
LOL!!! And the last bit of feedback...
ImitationLunatic: You are thinking way too hard about this dude. It's not a science fair project it's a date.
ImitationLunatic: You're neurotic, stop thinking
ImitationLunatic: also stop eating too
Bishman77: elaborate on why i should stop eating
Imitationlunatic has signed off
He should be more sensitive about my eating disorders!
by Brian Lauren Bish (thanks D) =)
In the past, I have made several posts about dating. Several is, in fact, an understatement. Here are some of my conclusions from my previous dating posts:
1. Dating shouldn't be a big deal.
2. Asking girls on dates to get to know them better is fine.
3. Hopefully guys and girls don't take a first date too seriously.
This is all well and good, I think. However, when I think about romances that have worked out well, I think maybe there's something a bit more than this mechanical formula for dating (ask girl out, hang out, see what happens, hang out more, etc). Maybe we need a fresh look.
I'm going to take a certain situation and analyze it. His first date with the girl was to a semi-formal. Then, he asked her to dinner. After the dinner, they went to a park and played on the swings (this guy is the man, by the way). While he was doing this, he had his friend drop off a huge pack of flowers (roses?) on her bed while she was out, so that when she came back she'd have them. Maybe it shouldn't be a big surprise that currently, they are still dating and she's hugely in love with him. Which, of course, she should be, because he's the man (see above).
Now, here's my dilemma: if this isn't supposed to be a big deal, which I don't think it should be too big of a deal, but girls kinda want it to mean something, should we just do something amazing to win their hearts over? I mean, what if we like a girl and we know sufficient enough about her to know that she's worth pursuing, even for a long term relationship - as much as you could know, anyway. For example, say everything you know about this girl makes you like her and there's nothing about her you don't like or you know you wouldn't like in the future. If we ask her out on a date, take her to Biaggi's, do something else amazing, flatter her and smother her in all kinds of awesome romantic things (which is what a lot of girls want, I think...), then I am wondering what's wrong with that. If I did that for a second date, it'd be a little bit more than just me getting to like a girl or know her better. That's probably way too much for a first date... but even early in the relationship, why not? I bet a girl would really appreciate something like that. And if they don't like you, sure it sucks and sure you put yourself on the line a little bit more than normal; oh well, life goes on.
I guess it's the romantic side in me coming out. Who knows, I think I just contradicted what I in previous posts. How do I casually date a girl, with the hope of getting to know her to the point where I don't feel like I don't know enough about her to ask her to be my girlfriend, without doing something that assumes I already know that she could be my girlfriend, like a super-romantic date? That question, my friends, is what I hope Jules and Jason answer - and you guys all know my email too.
I still don't think a first date should be a big deal, btw. If I said let's go on a first date and the girl said no I'd still feel like I didn't get a fair chance. But if I did something super awesome on date 2, am I contradicting myself?
We'll see what everybody else thinks. I'm just processing stuff.
And I'm about to go to sleep, because to quote Padiak, "You can't think when you're asleep."
It's so true.
Night!
Bish
PS: So check this out - I tell my friends I posted it and they give me some classic and highly quotable AIM convo stuff. So here it is, I hope you enjoy this!
LisAg 84: see and that's the perspective on dating that most girls take
Bishman77: but doing that on date 1 would be nuts right?!
LisAg 84: um.....i dunno
LisAg 84: i guess it just depends
Bishman77: on?
LisAg 84: whether or not the girl likes the guy
Now that is hysterical!
Next!
Bishman77: see, in my post I did say that date 1 would be too much for something like that
Bottman77: yah, it probably would
Bottman77: if you are trying to get to know the person better
Bottman77: otherwise, if you've known them for a while, something bigger might be appropriate
Bottman77: see
Bottman77: it's all about tricking the other person into liking you
Bottman77: that way they're stuck
LOL!!! And the last bit of feedback...
ImitationLunatic: You are thinking way too hard about this dude. It's not a science fair project it's a date.
ImitationLunatic: You're neurotic, stop thinking
ImitationLunatic: also stop eating too
Bishman77: elaborate on why i should stop eating
Imitationlunatic has signed off
He should be more sensitive about my eating disorders!
Wednesday, February 02, 2005
Jason is an awesome guy, and he adds a lot to the WPOD. I was recently inspired by the following convo to write this post, which hopefully won't be too long.
From Jason's away msg:
Guy on Yahoo: "Sorry p [stands for partner], played bachwards."
Me (Shrap): "Bachwards? What's that, a composer for the dyslexic?"
Guy's partner: "That's mean, Shrap."
Nick: "How's that mean?"
Me: "Bach = composer. Wards=direction"
Guy's partner: "Ohh... Gotcha"
Guy: "your over my head"
Nick: "You mean "you're""?
So, we all know that Jason is a bit smarter than the average person out there floating through the annals of life. But, I think we gotta give him a bit more credit. That convo represents a miniscule fraction of the intelligent and insightful things I've heard him say. Most of them are so freaking complex that I'm not even sure what his point is! The above example (a composer that's dyslexic) is just one example of a "Jasonism." That's the name I'm giving it. Everytime he says something insightful and hard to understand, it's getting labeled and stuck on here.
So Jason, thanks for your sometimes incomprehensible wit. Sometimes, I wish I had the mental alertness to keep up with you in conversation. Hopefully I'm a tad bit smarter than those two guys =)
Peace!
Bish
From Jason's away msg:
Guy on Yahoo: "Sorry p [stands for partner], played bachwards."
Me (Shrap): "Bachwards? What's that, a composer for the dyslexic?"
Guy's partner: "That's mean, Shrap."
Nick: "How's that mean?"
Me: "Bach = composer. Wards=direction"
Guy's partner: "Ohh... Gotcha"
Guy: "your over my head"
Nick: "You mean "you're""?
So, we all know that Jason is a bit smarter than the average person out there floating through the annals of life. But, I think we gotta give him a bit more credit. That convo represents a miniscule fraction of the intelligent and insightful things I've heard him say. Most of them are so freaking complex that I'm not even sure what his point is! The above example (a composer that's dyslexic) is just one example of a "Jasonism." That's the name I'm giving it. Everytime he says something insightful and hard to understand, it's getting labeled and stuck on here.
So Jason, thanks for your sometimes incomprehensible wit. Sometimes, I wish I had the mental alertness to keep up with you in conversation. Hopefully I'm a tad bit smarter than those two guys =)
Peace!
Bish
Tuesday, February 01, 2005
Hola! Well, my life has been going pretty well lately, I must say. The guys have been good and classes are about the perfect amount of work (not too much, not too little). That's a quick update on life, leaving out the drama till after it happens, if it ever does at all.
As for the subject at hand, I think that Jules is pretty valid to argue against Andrew. After all, Andrew's rant was, well, a rant, and rants aren't supposed to be dissected. But if it goes on the WPOD it's up for discussion anyway.
In response to Jules, I think she's right a lot of times if she reads Andrew literally. But I don't think we should - Andrew's message is actually pretty good. Girls shouldn't expect their new guys to be like their old ones, or better even. Any comparison is not healthy, you gotta forget the old one altogether. Also, I'm not sure that Andrew meant that all girls need to be in a relationship. If he did, then he's wrong. I took it to mean that all the girls that desperately need to be in a relationship are doomed, and not that all girls fit into that category. As for the first two, the rebuttals are appropriate cuz I don't think Andrew actually thinks girls would make those arguments. They are just kinda dumb things girls might say (because some girls are dumb), so Andrew could destroy them with his superior logic.
That's all for now, I might edit this later.
J Rice is here!
Bish
As for the subject at hand, I think that Jules is pretty valid to argue against Andrew. After all, Andrew's rant was, well, a rant, and rants aren't supposed to be dissected. But if it goes on the WPOD it's up for discussion anyway.
In response to Jules, I think she's right a lot of times if she reads Andrew literally. But I don't think we should - Andrew's message is actually pretty good. Girls shouldn't expect their new guys to be like their old ones, or better even. Any comparison is not healthy, you gotta forget the old one altogether. Also, I'm not sure that Andrew meant that all girls need to be in a relationship. If he did, then he's wrong. I took it to mean that all the girls that desperately need to be in a relationship are doomed, and not that all girls fit into that category. As for the first two, the rebuttals are appropriate cuz I don't think Andrew actually thinks girls would make those arguments. They are just kinda dumb things girls might say (because some girls are dumb), so Andrew could destroy them with his superior logic.
That's all for now, I might edit this later.
J Rice is here!
Bish
